Tag: work and travel

Getting Lonely Whilst Traveling

This week was a busy one. I had to fly to Rio for two nights and then flew straight to the UK. I spent another two nights here before flying back to the US last night. This is one of the busier weeks I’ve had and I’m actually feeling pretty lethargic. The only people that can really empathize with me is the flight attendants. One that I spoke to said they had been awake for 3 days!

I spend a lot of time in planes. I also spend a lot of time in taxis, buses and trains. Although I am always busy working I do tend to reflect a lot on my life. This is part of why I have written this blog. I use it as a diary and to give myself some courage to share how I really feel with the world.

I was contacted recently by another person who travels frequently for work and they wanted to know how I deal with loneliness whilst I was traveling. To be honest, this is a sensitive issue for me and one that I have not discussed openly before. I am human and of course being without my family or friends for extended periods of time does leave me feeling lonely.

I decided the best way to tackle this question was to best honest. The truth is that the travel is really getting to me. I could be feeling like this based off this week, but I do feel like I need to say this to get it off my chest. I travel so much for work that most of the time I don’t even know what bed I am sleeping in.

When I am in a new city, I don’t know other people in the city. The same small talk with colleagues does get old and although you can always go out and meet people it is rare to click with someone on a deeper level. But it is also the simple things that are bugging me. I don’t know the best place to grab a coffee or to get some breakfast.

Just this week I have felt that this was isolating. I did not want to leave my hotel room because I did not want to miss the chance to sleep. Not only that but I did not want to stuff around with finding a place to buy a coffee when I could simple order one from the room service menu.

Okay, so it is not all bad. I have had some of the best experiences of my life traveling especially in places like Cancun, and the friends that I met there I have managed to stay in contact with. But to be honest, this is a rare occurrence and the times that I meet people that I click with are a rare breed.

Expressing how I feel has definitely helped. Even now as I type this, I feel relief from the feeling of isolation. Maybe it is also due to my age. I am getting older and many of my friends are getting married and having children of their own. They say they are envious of my life, and whilst I am not envious of theirs, I can that it is something missing in my life.

I’m not really sure what to do next. I love my job and love travel, and I don’t want this experience to make me despise either of them. Hopefully I feel better after a long sleep.